* Caution- Some parts of this blog post contain explicit and obscene language unsuitable for females and readers of age below 16. Please think before you start reading the blog post.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Hello all, I am sure everyone is excited about upcoming Diwali vacations. For my pals @ DDU (DDIT), it\u2019s almost a week since we\u2019re enjoying our holidays. It has been quite a while since I\u2019ve made a blog post. 3^{rd<\/sup> semester had been worse than I expected it to be. It posed enough hurdles in my way, not giving me a room to write something. But with vacations on and some provoking issues grappling my attention, I am here sharing one. There is a lot of nuisance around, peace lacks in abundance. Inspite of being free individuals, we aren\u2019t free. There used to be a time when the Indian society was stuck in a stigma called \u201cSamaaj\u201d. The targets of this samaaj were middle aged or old citizens. Now in the 21st<\/sup> century with lot of modernization just round the corner, people believe this stigma to have been eradicated, but that\u2019s certainly not the case. The stigma is still alive with a new form and new targets. This time the targets are \u201cyoungsters\/collegians\/teenagers\u201d and you name the stigma as \u201cPeer Pressure\u201d. Read ahead as I elaborate.<\/p>\n}

Being Cool?? Definitely NOT!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong>Every collegian wants be \u201cCOOL\u201d today. The problem with today\u2019s youth is they don\u2019t actually understand what is cool and what is not. That is where we lose productivity. Today\u2019s youth defines Drinking, Smoking, Drugs, Hookah, Sex, Hurling Abuses, etc. as a few activities which the so called \u201cCOOL\u201d people do. But the fact is these are some activities losers resort to. There are people ditched by their girlfriends\/boyfriends, there are people who score low academically or rather fail, ridiculed by parents they resort to nuisances as such just to prove that they aren\u2019t losers. But the fact doesn\u2019t change. Had it been so, every guy could be Ranbir Kapoor and every girl could be Katrina Kaif by just drinking or smoking. Your being a teenager neither gives a licence to drink or smoke nor does it imply a rule on you for mandatorily drinking\/smoking else you will be thrown out of the category \u201cYouth\u201d. I don\u2019t have a problem with a group of people who drink or smoke, they die of smoking and consuming alcohol I don\u2019t care a damn. But I\u2019ve a problem with their hampering peace in other\u2019s life. What some people have to say is \u201cI am cool and you\u2019re not. I have done some of the coolest things in life. I\u2019ve drunk, I\u2019ve smoked \u2026\u201d There are stubborn people like me who don\u2019t succumb to this pseudo definition of coolness, but what about the rest? Just to show that they\u2019re cool enough, they start drinking and smoking. Now the question which I have to ask to people is, today so called cool ones DRINK and SMOKE, tomorrow after losing they will hang themselves. Will you too hang yourself, just to prove that you\u2019re cool?? Don\u2019t answer me, answer yourself.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 For the time being they do stand out as cool amongst a group of people, but they lose their coolness of lifetime. Why don\u2019t people understand that being your original-self is the COOLEST thing on earth? Why the hell try to imitate some jerks just for the sake of being termed as \u201cCOOL\u201d by those who aren\u2019t cool themselves? Be it within or out of limits, smoking and drinking isn\u2019t cool at all people. Why put a permanent blot on your character by doing that? This blot on your character cannot be blanched by any level of exalted stature in academics or finances, once the damage is done, it\u2019s irreparable. \u00a0You stand out COOL when you\u2019re different. And you\u2019re different when you\u2019re original. People respect the ORIGINALS and not the ones CREATED. The moment you realize your original self, you\u2019re cool.<\/p>\n

Peer Pressure – \u201cMain Apple Tu Windows, Main Andriod Tu Symbian\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Peer Pressure (Gujarati: \u201cDekha Dekhi\u201d) exists in various forms. I don\u2019t know about other streams, but I will talk about very evident and prevalent form of Peer Pressure in our Science and Engineering stream. Being an Engineering student that too a Computer Engineering student, I\u2019ve been a part of various debates (amongst friends and class mates) pertaining to OS, Technology, gadgets etc. I\u2019ve seen number of guys disrespected, bashed, pulled down, ridiculed and rendered servile just because they aren\u2019t fans of Late Mr Steve Jobs but Bill Gates, just because they use Nokia phones (working on Symbian) and not an Android. Because somebody follows Late Steve Jobs and not Mr Gates means that he\u2019s cool? Just because somebody finds a Nokia phone apt for him and not an Android means he\u2019s not cool?<\/p>\n

Let me tell such peers, everybody has an opinion. If you don\u2019t have the manners to raise somebody, you don\u2019t possess the moral right to prove somebody inferior. Though Late Steve Jobs have been the greatest man on the planet, I don\u2019t differ to this, but saying that Mr Gates is nothing isn\u2019t legitimate. You get a right to comment on somebody only when you reach or surpass his stature. First at least make an iota of what Mr Gates or Late Mr Steve Jobs did and then clinch the right to comment on them. Also let me tell peers and bullies, not everyone has the financial freedom to experience an IPhone working on iOS or a Samsung working on Android. People will share their opinion to what they\u2019ve seen. If they\u2019ve just seen a Nokia working on a Symbian, there\u2019s nothing wrong in it. Why ridicule them? Just because they couldn\u2019t afford an IPhone or Android? If you want everybody to harp in your tune, provide them some bucks to buy MAC, IPhone and Androids. (Am sure you don\u2019t have enough, do you?)<\/p>\n

And to people who are the victims of peer pressure, I’ve just tell one thing to them. Your appreciating an IPhone or any apple product doesn\u2019t make you a Techno Savvy. What will raise you in people\u2019s eyes will be your knowledge, your originality and your character. Respect everybody and respect everything, have an open mind, be original and you will find people applauding for you lifelong.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cChutyapatti nahi Bakchodi bol. Fucking lagaya ke nahi word ke Aage?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Another thing which you find youngsters doing too often is hurling abuses for no reason. Unless they address somebody as \u201cChutya\u201d or \u201cLoda\u201d they feel they won\u2019t get salvation. And saying a \u201cFucking\u201d before anything is today\u2019s latest trend. If you don\u2019t do all this you aren\u2019t cool, say the peers and bullies. And one more thing even more astonishing is finding out new abuses, the more new abuses you use the cooler you stand. This is not only the case in other colleges, but this is something which happens in my college too and is grieving. Recently I came across a FB Page titled \u201cBakchodi\u201d (again an abuse). People find it cool putting a \u201cLike\u201d on such pages. And wait, this isn\u2019t restricted to just a \u201cLike\u201d, but they even spread the new abuse \u201cBakchodi. And it\u2019s heard that people who previously said \u201cKya chutyapatti hai?\u201d now say \u201cKya bakchodi hai?\u201d Instead on cutting down on abuses (considered a bad civic manner I guess), they actually keep it thriving! Also peers say that using a \u201cFucking\u201d before a word is cool, you\u2019re modern, in tune with the world if you do that. Oh is it? So like even before a good , you hear \u201cIt\u2019s fucking good\u201d. Now what kind of a statement is this? If something is good, it cannot fuck you for sure. If something fucks you, you obviously would not want to call it fucking unless you\u2019re a gigolo or a whore or may be both. So think before you use \u201cFucking\u201d the next time. (I\u2019m sure you would not want yourself fucked by something\/somebody).<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Bottom line to my readers is, if the so called \u201cCOOL\u201d people use abuses, it\u2019s not mandatory for you to do so. They\u2019re just devastating their repute by doing so. Am sure you love your repute a lot and wouldn\u2019t want it to be rendered.<\/p>\n

Summing it up:<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 All said and done regarding Peer Pressure will be less. It\u2019s immense around and will take a lot to be eradicated. Today if the target is somebody else, if today somebody else is shown a \u201cLow Figure\u201d, if somebody else is bashed today, it can be you too tomorrow. It requires you as a responsible youth to take an initiative for your fellow brethren and their moral respect. Oppose peers and their pressure and liberate yourself from being somebody else. You\u2019re a free individual and therefore you possess the full right to enjoy freedom, both physically and mentally. To all readers reading this, let me request you sincerely- Please don\u2019t be in a race to be cool. You gain absolutely nothing by that. You gain hatred of the ones whom you disrespect; you gain disappointment of you parents when they hear you\u2019ve drunk or smoked and last but not the least a permanent blot on your clean character that you possessed once upon a time.<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Always remember, being original is the real coolness. Let the world go to hell. If you\u2019re original you\u2019re cool. You\u2019re cool to God and cool to your Parents and that\u2019s what matters the most. Let the peers go to hell. Also remember you don\u2019t raise your social position or knowledge when you show somebody \u201clow\u201d in public or disrespect him. The word of God says \u201cYou raise yourself when you raise somebody else\u201d. Spread smile, make people feel good about themselves, respect their opinion (not because they\u2019re right or wrong, but because they\u2019re equally special to God as you are) and you will be really cool!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Love & Regards,<\/p>\n

Anish.<\/p>\n

P.S.- If anybody reading this feels that the blog post targets him\/her, it’s not so. As I wrote in the concluding lines, I believe in respecting everybody and nobody is an exception. If you feel the blog post targets you, you might have been a peer. Please take it as a humble request from me and be gentle and humble.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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