Hello friends, Season Greetings. Hope you\u2019re all having a great time in the hot summer. Heat is awesome, isn\u2019t it? Sarcasm apart, I wasn\u2019t planning to make any blog post before 14^{th<\/sup> May as I have my Sessional exams, submissions, practicals and stuff till then. But then, some things were hampering my peace and that\u2019s what made this blog post \u201cStaying Facebook Proof\u201d emerge. It is well evident from the title that this blog post rotates around our life in \u201cFacebook World\u201d. I used the term World with \u201d Facebook\u201d because in this Facebook era I believe we live two lives- one on Facebook and the other in the Human Universe. We humans tend to remain oblivious in the world of Facebook, mix the Facebook life with the Human Life and that\u2019s what disturbs us at times. Quarrels among friends due to FB likes\/comments, makeup\/break ups on Facebook, spying, bullying- have become inevitable elements of our Facebook life. Needless to cite that it leaves a negative impact in real time. In some three years of my Facebooking, I have innumerable memoirs at various arenas and strata to stand the test of ordeals posed by the Facebook impact. I shall now share with you some of my experiences that may help to establish poise between your Facebook Life and Human Life.<\/p>\n}

I would like to take off with a very general issue- Privacy. A few months ago you might have been reading one article each day in the newspaper or on the Yahoo! News fader about Facebook privacy loopholes. From my perspective, Facebook was weak in privacy then but not that weak in proportion to the negative zilch hype that media had raised about Facebook then. Now when there are negligible privacy loopholes in the system, the irony is that the users don\u2019t know setting their Privacy right. I bet 90% of the people reading this blog post might have so inept privacy settings that anyone can gain quite an enough information about them like – your closest friends, relationship status(even if you haven\u2019t kept it public), your occupation, your kith and kin- and Eureka, this is what hackers called Social Engineering. The most foolish thing which most of the FB users do is keeping their Friend list open (Some of my friends have copied me, seeing me they too have made their Friend list invisible, this is what you call \u201cSmartness\u201d). Why the heck do you need to keep your Friend list open either for friends or Strangers? Today when people add strangers in their account, do you think it\u2019s plausible enough to do so? I\u2019m sure not. Your friend list is one of the few ways to spy your life. Have some common sense and set it right, today! Next thing in privacy is Photos. Some so called Divas keep their Albums open for strangers too! Model Eh? Don\u2019t be astonished if you see your pic edited, morphed and uploaded on a leading porn site tomorrow. Stop showing off, if not for your sake at least for your parents\u2019 sake.<\/p>\n

After privacy comes the rationality in use. Facebook, a social networking site right? People use it for getting trained as gamblers today. Astonishing! I was stupefied to cognize the fact that a handful of my friends were now expert Poker players and all thanks to the Poker Game Apps on FB. Don\u2019t you think learning coding would have been more useful than learning poker on FB? Unfortunately I\u2019m not aware if we have any apps which make developers on FB and not gamblers. The other menaces are those insane applications like \u201cTop 10 Friends\u201d, \u201cMurder Mystery\u201d, \u201cMY BFF\u201d, \u201cTagging Friends\u201d and what not. Stupid are those coders who make such random algorithms to fool users and even more stupid are those users who use these application thoughtlessly compromising their privacy. Come on guys grow up.<\/p>\n

Now let\u2019s get a little deeper. Facebook is just another world where everything that exists in the real world, exists here too. Remember Sheon Parker\u2019s dialogue from \u2018The Social Network\u2019, the one where he said \u201cWe\u2019re gonna live on the internet.\u201d ? Facebook has just transformed this dialogue into an equal reality. As life and relationships exist in real time so do they on Facebook too. For my committed friends from my state Gujarat, Facebook might not be so loving to you as it is to the singles. Some say \u201cWhen we\u2019re together why hide it?\u201d where as the others say, \u201cNo, let\u2019s not let it out, Log kya Sochenge\u201d. What the F? Well if we had just friends in our friend list changing our relationship status from \u201cSingle\u201d to \u201cIn a Relationship\u201d wouldn\u2019t have been a big deal. But things have refrained from remaining indifferent in the recent times. Now we\u2019ve everybody from the family- Parents, Grandparents, Uncle-Aunty, and all Kith & Kin on Facebook. That\u2019s what makes the things difficult. In a country like ours where being in a relationship is considered a bigger crime than raping a woman or sleeping maiden with a man, it\u2019s not at all astonishing that my committed friends feel suffocating over Facebook. I would like to narrate you what you call \u201cCase Studies\u201d in my programming language. I have so many friends who are committed to somebody and I am proud of the fact they\u2019re and also proud of that fact that I\u2019m their friend. Recently, one of my friends (committed) fell a bleak prey to his elder cousin\u2019s suspicion. His cousin noticed his comments on his better-half\u2019s status updates and pics and suspected that he was ON with the girl. Yes he was, rather he is, but Uske Cousin ko Kya? His cousin questioned him about the issue and being easily traumatized by the interrogation, he ended up in removing his better-half from his friend list. Not only this, he had added his better half\u2019s sister as a friend. He had to remove her also from the Friend list. ROFL!! What a blanched act!! But not his fault. He was just a victim of horrible conservative structure our society has.<\/p>\n

Well enough of bashing over narrow-mindedness. Now some remedies to this. Well Facebook is a Social Networking site and by chance if you have seen \u201cThe Social Network\u201d, Facebook was made for college students, college friends and not for family members and cousins to interact amongst them. Getting to the point, one day I found one of my nearest cousin sisters on FB and sent her an Add Request. I was astonished to see it rejected from her. I sent it her again, and to my surprise again \u201cREJECTED\u201d. Of course I didn\u2019t question her for this act of hers, but it\u2019s now I realize that why she did that. If you take me, adding family members or cousins is a bad idea on Facebook. Once you add them, you need to say confined some limits, which are unnecessary. No liberty even in the virtual world too. This is something appalling. So for the committed ones you have the following options:<\/p>\n

(i)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 If you\u2019re in a relationship don\u2019t add your family members in your friend list. If you\u2019ve already added them remove. I\u2019m sure they won\u2019t mind it, will they?<\/p>\n

(ii)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 If you don\u2019t have the guts to face people with status \u201cCommitted\u201d, don\u2019t fall into Relationship. Point here is not about a \u201cmeagre\u201d friend request on FB, but its about facing the world with your real-self. Have the chest to face the world. Falling in Love isn\u2019t a crime. It\u2019s time the society needs a change. Play your part in initiating the change. (Guys: Pehla Girlfriend ni permission lai lejo haan).<\/p>\n

(iii)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Deactivate your Facebook Account. Very Simple.<\/p>\n

My last suggestion for the professionals as well as students. Refrain from adding your colleagues @ workplace and professors in your college in your Friend List. There needs to be some distance when it comes to Work Relationship. And to my student friends, we\u2019re in a college where we have Professors (A Word derived from word Professionals) and not teachers. Most of the Profs don\u2019t give a damn about the students. So what\u2019s the point in adding them? Am sure you don\u2019t add them for doubt solving on Facebook. Do you? ROFL. And to professionals, just one status update made in angst can result in your sacking from the firm. So let\u2019s keep some relationships limited to the workplace, what say?<\/p>\n

Above mentioned were a few things that would help to keep you real life in abeyance from the Facebook Jerks. In a inevitably addicted Facebooking Era, its exigent to keep yourself \u201cFacebook Proof\u201d. Happy Facebooking.<\/p>\n

Love & Regards,<\/p>\n

Anish.<\/p>\n

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